小心太太

呢套日劇既幾位主角,都係全職主婦,而第三集既主題,正中近日生活既事。
呢次講主婦被主婦欺凌。金句好多,有興趣知既不妨慢慢欣賞細味。
其中我最喜歡既,有「被欺凌的痛苦,只有當事人才明白。」
早前家長朋友曾對我講過被家長無視一事,我也受著呢些無聊既對待,但上心程度較低,安慰朋友時也用了一種較正面既態度,希望佢可以儘快忘記。
現在看,我既方法一定無用吧!
一直以來都覺得朋友係強者,其實呢次佢選擇離開,像表現軟弱,但我知呢種情況真係好難撐下去。同意主角話,不知道自身弱既人,才是最弱既人。

日本既情況和外國相似,社區小,而母親多數係全職留家主婦,狹小既空間中,再有不愉快既事,會無限放大,看不開,但係又難以逃避。唔係個個可以搬屋一走了之。如香港有工人去湊仔,應該可以免除呢些問題吧!只要無參加任何whatsapp group, 是非會少好多吧!

真的,知己再學習變強才是出路。

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解憂人走了

解憂朋友離開了。未知原因,但心裡好失落。
數星期前才對我說學校有多好,社區有幾方便,還有仁慈既業主。呢些都係一個完美得令人羨慕既條件,他們都擁有了。
想起當年為孩子轉校,不會因家長原因,而係發現孩子不開心,人仔細細,一邊食飯一邊喊。
讀PN如此,又何必繼續?離開既決定也證明係正確的。
如果因為班上既家長做了些什麼,就決定轉校,感覺有點極端。佢既一班,家長更hostile, 我的一班,至少懂假假地走過來多謝我地送既小禮物,返了成年總算傾左第一次計。
我都知一直無人理佢,日子的確難捱既。呢些都係我地「外人」要面對既苦況。
不過,家長之間其實又不必成為朋友的。有緣份的就傾,無緣份既也算吧,上心就會好辛苦。
另一方面,佢總算仍有機會選擇。我也為佢感到安心。
至於真正要「走」,怕得要搬家既原因,我都開始不太想知。真相往往好可怕,不想我知也算吧。
又到學期末,原來下學年既老師都是好hea既一群。朋友既行動,也激發了我想和孩子轉校既意欲。須知道,A good teacher can make a difference. 孩子來到新地方既進步和成長,都靠好老師既一直幫忙。

也許,呢個學期可以去參觀一下地方,有需要時就可以隨時行動了。

有聚有散

響第二個家認識既第一個「真正」朋友,今天對我講孩子要轉校搬家了。
事出突然,一時間不懂反應。
她係我每天湊孩子返學最想見的人。縱使每天一會兒,但係彼此都能藉那時刻為對方解憂說笑。
也許是文化不同既關係,與其他人係難以建立呢種關係。
好想知道原因。畢竟,放假前佢仲對我講好喜歡學校一切,和所住既社區。佢比我地幸運,能有一個好業主,既不迫遷,更為他們打理花園種花。
我不理解發生了何事,但相信原因一定係重要得令他們想改變生活方式。

想起了朋友對我講既一番話 — 別人永遠不能代入你既處境。當我在擔心孩子既健康時,人地係不會關心的。
也許吧?!

又會回歸寂寞既日子。幸好大家都習慣了,也沒有什麼話喜歡不喜歡的。
緣來緣去,有空的就聚在一起,但願朋友一家快樂開心。

校長Principal

There are bad teachers in my kid’s school now, but I always believe a good principal can fix that and turn things around.

But how about this principal is leaving? And she is leaving suddenly, just a term to go before the whole year finish.

I can understand how appealing her next promotion is. But as a parent, just like my other friend, whose son has suffered from bullying in another school before, we have main concern that the next principal may not be as good as her.

This principal is very special to me. She has demonstrated her international visions in education and also she understands the needs of students coming from other countries, just like us. Our kids at least can find safe places and caring teachers to look after them and help them to forget the discrimination and bullying.

The other staff are a bit lazy and indifferent to our needs. Good teachers can make kids shine, and bad teachers can make kids rot, right?

While we are flexible in finding homes here, the area where the good principal will be working can be our next option. Suddenly I feel more positive about our situations than before. Though it’s not a good change for our kid, maybe a good school with capable principal is the most important of all.

Wait and see then. I’m glad that we still have choices to make.

Big gifts

This is a birthday I always wish for. Peaceful and with my loved ones.

Though my parents forget mine like a mystery as usual, I am too lazy to find out why now. Anyway, I will never forget when my child was born.

My good friend is online again and let me know she’s fine. Such news is even precious than anything. Pal, please wait for me to return and chat with you.

And my hubby secretly made a cake himself today. That’s such a surprise from a cool and blunt person. I do love and appreciate his idea!

It’s blissful with loved ones on my own birthday. May this last always and everybody has good health too.

估不到Unexpected

晚飯時間聽到新聞話,呢度一條運送飛機油既管道,因為有人挖樹而整穿左!
聞所未聞,但係,來到新地方,又係一個全新發現!
因此,一些航班就受影響了,會取消,或係delay. 飛長途既,可能要到其他地方補給機油。
不幸的,我地係會受影響既。聽講兩個星期先會整好條管,預計⋯⋯
平日行開既一條馬路,單係鋪石屎都幾個月,鋪完又鋪,5,6個人望住一個工序,就係好「嚴謹」的。
對飛行既野,我真係不太熟悉呀,但由於係受影響的一群,又多左一樣野要擔心。
之前已經因missile問題苦惱了一陣,Korean媽媽就全無反應,可能多年如是,又有乜好怕?
但願我地既行程不會受太大影響吧!Somehow, 我地只想抖一抖,見下大家聚聚舊,難道要求太多嗎?

好朋友BFF

阿囡生病無返學,佢響學校既BFF texted左我地。
我地知道佢地都好掛住對方,平日又互相照顧,都感到好甜好安慰。
家長既惡夢,就係孩子返學唔開心,無人支持和愛護佢。
呢一學年,除左適應新文化和語言,最大挑戰就係和同學相處。
佢開始認識到什麼係好朋友,以及如何和不同既人相處,真係一個大進步啊!
至於友誼是否永固,那就隨緣吧!

父母的話Our words

孩子突然話不喜歡自己頭髮既顏色。

可能生病關係, 有點語無倫次。

但我都會敏感既.

之後我話, 爸爸媽媽最喜歡你依家個樣子,佢立即面露笑容, 訓著了。

好甜呀!

10年後, 睬我都傻。

好番Love again

放學後回到家,罕有既見不到一向既笑臉,安靜得可怕。
原來今日孩子全天都覺得不開心,因為今早發生了那件事。
點解我呢個受害人變成加害者?
之後,走過來和我講: I want you to be happy again.
唉,罵完小朋友心情當時係不會好,佢又點會睇不出。
成日激完我都係用呢招和好架。
佢既柔軟方法,總係有效既。

搵自己Find myself

呢朝早,孩子投訴我地叫佢起床,嘈醒佢。一時間,如當頭棒喝。好嬲,但係,冷靜下來後,都係時候放手。我不想連返學都變成係我大人既責任。
呢間孩子好喜歡又夾佢既學校,最大既缺點係離家太遠。除了大家都要花大量時間在交通往來,精神花費也包括,想增加和同學課後玩既機會也無埋。(因為,呢度既文化係喜歡和同區人交往的)
不得不承認,因為做了stay home mum, 自己既schedule和孩子既係integrate左好多年。
一直想,到孩子讀小學時,都係自己再搵番自己興趣和工作既時候。
起碼,孩子現在已經較獨立,開始有返學和照顧自己既意識,我地都要慢慢放手了。
一切要計劃好,目的係想佢長大和成長,以及更著緊自己既事。

教仔難,很難。