多一次機會Second Chance

放學後,經過斑馬線時有個小女孩想過馬路,我地既車自然地停低,佢慢慢行之餘仲同我地揮手。我地開頭覺得好有趣,而呢種情況響呢度都不算少見,行在路上陌生人都會對我地say hi既。

但孩子話認識佢,佢就係之前話因為我地既ethnicity而一口拒絕同佢玩既新同學!

原來那件事後,新同學和佢有一起玩,孩子也似乎忘記了之前發生的事。老師們確實化解了一場誤會,而孩子也沒有小氣,因為那件事而無左個朋友。

成日都講,要俾小朋友second chance, 一次錯失不可以否定一切。孩子要學識寬恕,當然我地都希望,別人對佢都同樣寬容。

多一個朋友,佢返學會更開心吧!

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用錢買位Money!

剛睇倒全港最出名那間直資學校,要捐夠100萬先有得讀.
有幾成真?錢我想點都要捐既⋯⋯
學費年年60,000, 仲會繼續加。朋友孩子入到去讀,不見得功課輕鬆,變左繁忙兒童,連禮拜六日都要去學野。
通常家長都係想用錢買位和happy learning,但係依家咁樣又值不值?
要用咁多錢和心機時間,將來大個都無可能搵番,真係要問下好朋友幾時去外國,孩子舒服一點,又唔駛大家咁辛苦啦!

校長Principal

There are bad teachers in my kid’s school now, but I always believe a good principal can fix that and turn things around.

But how about this principal is leaving? And she is leaving suddenly, just a term to go before the whole year finish.

I can understand how appealing her next promotion is. But as a parent, just like my other friend, whose son has suffered from bullying in another school before, we have main concern that the next principal may not be as good as her.

This principal is very special to me. She has demonstrated her international visions in education and also she understands the needs of students coming from other countries, just like us. Our kids at least can find safe places and caring teachers to look after them and help them to forget the discrimination and bullying.

The other staff are a bit lazy and indifferent to our needs. Good teachers can make kids shine, and bad teachers can make kids rot, right?

While we are flexible in finding homes here, the area where the good principal will be working can be our next option. Suddenly I feel more positive about our situations than before. Though it’s not a good change for our kid, maybe a good school with capable principal is the most important of all.

Wait and see then. I’m glad that we still have choices to make.

Big gifts

This is a birthday I always wish for. Peaceful and with my loved ones.

Though my parents forget mine like a mystery as usual, I am too lazy to find out why now. Anyway, I will never forget when my child was born.

My good friend is online again and let me know she’s fine. Such news is even precious than anything. Pal, please wait for me to return and chat with you.

And my hubby secretly made a cake himself today. That’s such a surprise from a cool and blunt person. I do love and appreciate his idea!

It’s blissful with loved ones on my own birthday. May this last always and everybody has good health too.

聰明Clever / Dumb

阿囡:今日同學仔話我係最聰明架⋯⋯
我:(心想唔係掛!)但我地覺得你dumb dumb啊!
阿囡:同學仔話你地係Mr. Wrong & Mrs. Wrong呀…..
 
阿囡你不要自滿啦,今日聰明,聽日都可以變番蠢架,繼續努力,一世流流長。
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We are delighted that our kid is recognized for the skill and knowledge, but I really do think she needs to be humble and keep up her positive attitude in learning. There’s a long way to success.

估不到Unexpected

晚飯時間聽到新聞話,呢度一條運送飛機油既管道,因為有人挖樹而整穿左!
聞所未聞,但係,來到新地方,又係一個全新發現!
因此,一些航班就受影響了,會取消,或係delay. 飛長途既,可能要到其他地方補給機油。
不幸的,我地係會受影響既。聽講兩個星期先會整好條管,預計⋯⋯
平日行開既一條馬路,單係鋪石屎都幾個月,鋪完又鋪,5,6個人望住一個工序,就係好「嚴謹」的。
對飛行既野,我真係不太熟悉呀,但由於係受影響的一群,又多左一樣野要擔心。
之前已經因missile問題苦惱了一陣,Korean媽媽就全無反應,可能多年如是,又有乜好怕?
但願我地既行程不會受太大影響吧!Somehow, 我地只想抖一抖,見下大家聚聚舊,難道要求太多嗎?

好朋友BFF

阿囡生病無返學,佢響學校既BFF texted左我地。
我地知道佢地都好掛住對方,平日又互相照顧,都感到好甜好安慰。
家長既惡夢,就係孩子返學唔開心,無人支持和愛護佢。
呢一學年,除左適應新文化和語言,最大挑戰就係和同學相處。
佢開始認識到什麼係好朋友,以及如何和不同既人相處,真係一個大進步啊!
至於友誼是否永固,那就隨緣吧!

Show-and-tell

呢度返學有個傳統,就係老師希望小朋友會做show-and-tell. 每一日,都會安排時間俾佢地講幾句既。
雖然未親眼見過,但聽番無乜壓力要做,題目又係自訂既。呢樣比較大件事,因為同學仔多數帶哂公仔和玩具返學做一場show. 日日見到人玩玩具都不出奇,唉⋯⋯
雖然有家長朋友對分享玩具有不同睇法,但始終不甚同意呢種價值觀。
返學好free, 小朋友帶玩具返學係無人話唔俾既。孩子都問過的,但我一直都話不可以。
別人做的,點解係代表啱,又一定要跟隨呢?返學係學習,呢樣我至少要佢明白。
那見到人地既新玩具,又會好自然地叫我地買了。答案當然又係無啦,想買就買都不是我家傳統。
結果要做show-and-tell, 就同孩子講帶一樣自己創作既東西返去介紹。原創的總比買返去既好。我都解釋了,show-and-tell不是推銷玩具,not a toy show!

從圖書館借來了The Bernestain Bears’ Show-and-tell, 正正就係講其中既意義。結尾既一段文字甚得我心。
“Things don’t necessarily need to be brand-new, complicated, or expensive to be special. Sometimes the plain and the simple – or the old and the forgotten – can be very special, indeed.”

又借花獻佛了。

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生病時的話

天氣突然又轉冷,孩子又頂不住生病了。
呢個時候,佢突然對我講,下個月生日後,佢會學識照顧自己。
細路好奇怪的,平日不停講既事,今日唔講,無勞氣既時候,會拋出一句令你好錯愕。
呢個時候,反而我有點縮沙,反問番可不可以俾我照顧番佢少少呢?
表面上,我既放手計劃真係失敗了一大半。哈哈,每次都係咁既!?
由佢口中講出來的,都是好事的。響呢度,不自強,好難生存的。
又或者,生病時的話係不太可信的,會嗎?

父母的話Our words

孩子突然話不喜歡自己頭髮既顏色。

可能生病關係, 有點語無倫次。

但我都會敏感既.

之後我話, 爸爸媽媽最喜歡你依家個樣子,佢立即面露笑容, 訓著了。

好甜呀!

10年後, 睬我都傻。