偏見Biased

係時候教乜嘢係歧視。
對於人仔來講,實在幾難明白既,我想起由講biased 偏見入手。
於是我就話,雖然本人有差劣廚藝,但由於佢好愛媽媽,所以難食都話好食。
呢個例子夠簡單易明啦。因為人既關係,將原本好既事講成不好,又可以將不好既講成係好。
人仔猛點頭,原來這真係佢既想法。
真感動啊!

Advertisements

批評

有位印尼既家長問我鄉下和澳門打風既事。傾談間,覺得天災既事無法避免。
於是我話,鄰地通報遲左,所以造成悲劇⋯⋯
當然太深層次既原因就不想多講了,呢度看天災既態度,其實也和那兒相近。

每次一有大雨,必定有地方停水停電水浸。看新聞都覺得有點倦了,而由於長期存在既基建問題,形成了大眾愛理不理既心態,總之can do 心態,自己攪好,更不要投訴。

問題明明係在有關部門,以前總會蓋得好好的,但一到大選前夕,所有問題就一次個拎出來討論,總覺得,這樣也好,一張選票都可以有個希望。

政治一定影響生活。不關心的,就只有自取滅亡吧!

免費教育Free Education

報紙話有間小學希望籌款去起一個全新既playground, 造價約$20000, 約HK$120,000.
話多不多,話少不少。但呢間係公立學校,點解政府不撥夠錢呢?
成日話Free education, 實質都要俾錢的。每間學校都會因撥款既多少而要求家長交donation,亦會攪好多活動籌錢。
這令家長好為難,變了成件事係,不交的,就像不支持學校。不參加學校活動,就擔心有後果吧!
如果係私校的,就一定不會計較了,至少知道係買緊服務,但公營教育就不同了。
大選將至,希望新上場的可以改革,做的真正既免費教育,不要再斬家長既荷包吧!

歧視Racism

終於,有人對小學雞講,因為佢係Chinese, 所以唔同佢玩。
這比我預期既早來了,於是,也立即和她「補補課」。
最緊要讓佢知道,這種行為叫做無知。
而racism, 係可以引致戰爭和大悲劇。
而孩子,也不應為自己既race而自責,產生任何負面既感覺。
我不願相信那是新同學既個人意見。呢類想法,多少來自家中父母,既然係咁,就更加乜都做不到。
呢種空氣愈吹愈烈,有時想起都覺得幾悲哀。
像我們呢種浪人,只有自強和自保,才能安然生活下去吧!

******
It’s so annoying to know someone refuses to play with my kid just because of her race – Chinese.
I’m not trying to defend about my race, but when I am thinking of the issue, I quickly told my  kid that such attitude is bad and ignorance. Racism can actually lead to war and even tragedies…. of course I haven’t mentioned that yet.
Maybe it’s time to teach her such important lesson now, to make sure that no self-blame here.
Only a small minority of people here in New Zealand belong to the true localists. Most of them are immigrants from other countries. And now, those parents are teaching their kids to discriminate others, how stupid!
My kid has to learn to get over this. Donno how long and hard it will take, but gotto overcome this and move on.

愛與恨

沒有無緣無故的愛,也沒有無緣無故的恨。
有無好憎一個人呢?我有。
阿媽成日都講,人都死左了,仲憎佢?
他做的事,係已經煙消雲散,我地只係幸運地避難,但佢既動機卻好清楚。
如果呢個人,差點令我無左至親,無埋屋企,乜都無呢?
呢個人一生只係用金錢收買人心,利用孩子既善良,一心只想他不好過,用不同方法陷害他。當事人搵不到原因,一直愚孝,但我就不會了。
回想,當小孩子時,能做的係劃清界線。對他做的事不關心,無興趣,也不去貪心什麼。
呢個人係我既童年陰影。阿媽一直不認同,只覺得我太執著。或許,大家對親人既看法太不同了。
所以,新聞話年輕人不與政客握手,感同身受,支持!

大家終於忍不住,再走出來表達!
好人點解要坐監?
報紙話只有幾百人,好呀,你自己拆左自己個老招牌,搶先話人知你份報紙係大話報。
不少認識既人,仍然關心吃喝玩樂,晨早講明「我討厭政治」了。
最難過既係,他們都深信大台講既一套,也不會思考。
每次見到,都有想嘔既感覺。
有一天,他們都會像豬一樣消失⋯⋯

父母心

可憐天下父母心。
好明白點解好多父母只希望孩子十項全能、讀名校、做專業人士既心態。
也好明白點解放假好多父母一定帶細路去旅行,培養佢地識飲識食既人生態度。
當然點會不明白好多父母用盡方法安排起跑線,總之,一定不可以輸。
細路無野做係罪,想休息都係罪,想做自己喜歡既事都係罪。
而想做個好人,做個有良知既人,千萬不好講呢啲⋯⋯可能,都會成為「罪」。
到最後,孩子長大了,又會成為一個怎樣既人?

做個好人Be a good guy

睇鄉下既新聞,一班關心社會年輕人被重判入獄,心寒,心痛。好多人都為他們而哭了。

年輕既從政者,表達了被判的一班人都係好人。同意,但又如何?

身邊見過好多好人,光明正大做事,努力工作完成dream, 但往往不幸既事都會發生在他們身上。例子不算多,但總會問,do they deserve this?

好人難做。極度乞人憎,不會受觀迎,甚至受孤立,但至少呢些少數人係有公義之心既人,而唔係那些失去道德既大多數吧!

未做媽媽之前,有個學生曾經問我幾時會生仔。好記得當時回答了,如果我要生,佢一定要係一個好人。而老練既學生就話,好難啊⋯⋯

多年過去,做個好人一直係教孩子既原則。有時聽到佢被人「蝦」,我都不會教佢報復,以暴易暴。一來這不是呢度既文化,二來,點解要灌輸壞人既做法?

孩子一直都收到,學著做個好人。困難重重,但一定要堅持下去。

*****
Is it so hard to be a good guy nowadays? When a group of sincere young people arrested for protesting against unlawful things, as a parent, what else can I tell and teach my own kid?

It’s always lonely to be a good guy. You may feel isolated, being attacked by those who disobey the rules, but one can feel freer and happier to live.

As parents, what can we teach our kids? Is it too dated to teach such core values in the 21st century? Other than spending huge sum of money to make them learn different academic skills, how many of us would teach them the right values and stand up for their own rights and opinion?

Most of them just hope they will be blind to the dark sides and ignore everything. Just focus on studies, eating good food and enjoying life is enough.

Then, the society will have no future.

圍城Walled City

無正式讀過圍城。第一次聽,係做緊第一份工同事講既。最出名既兩句,係外面既人想入去,裡面既人想出去。

每次聽到個書名,就想起呢個quote。

和孩子既好友一家去飲茶。期間,他們問起家鄉既情況。原來同學仔既爸爸可能有轉工既機會,不過可能要成家搬去。

一時間,真係有點講不出口。腦海就出現了書既呢句話,不過好快地,就知擔心係多餘。

佢地只係去掘金,甚至可以肯定,他們對那裡既語言和文化全無興趣!像他們呢種外國高層人士,去到根本係脫離社會的,孩子也被安排入int’l school, 接受西式既教育。就算去幾多年,他們都不會理會任何事。

從前見過既外國人,就係呢種。

而他們就一直享受著來到鄉下既禮待,但掉番轉,外來既人就不會有相同既遭遇了。不公平。

****
Expats love coming to work in Hong Kong due to the extraordinary attractive salary package. A lot of them can never earn that much in their home country. I understand that when the parent of my kid’s best friend inquired me about it.

But for us who have moved away the city, it’s a bit awkward to describe the good sides of our home unfortunately.

Not because I don’t love my home, just that, as parents, it’s not a place for kids anymore.

A moment later, I realized it’s not necessary to inform them because expats never care how your city develops coz’ they are just coming for money, not future.

Okay, got it.

小鼓勵Encouragement

原來老師今天讓孩子上台領獎狀!
如果早知的,就可以親眼見到呢個特別既時刻了!
呢度返學,聽講一直都不會有排名。雖然成日聽到老師做testing, 但係實際課程在做什麼真係不清楚。
孩子幸運地有好負責而夾佢既老師。留意到佢既強項和喜好,成日鼓勵佢去做更深一層次的。呢方面好感激,因為之前既老師也真的交行貨,無哂個火,一點也不關心學生。
放學時專登走番入課室向老師講謝謝。新老師也好興奮地俾我睇番孩子既journal work, 佢欣賞孩子既文字和表達能力。
孩子喜歡閱讀,應該係令佢語文大進既原因。希望佢能繼續努力,他日必可讓自己創出幸福的路啊!

****